Selfishness in relationships is a common occurrence and can lead to resentment and hostility.
When one or both partners are overly focused on themselves and their own needs, it can be difficult for the relationship to grow and thrive. Instead, the couple may find themselves constantly arguing or feeling distant from each other.
A relationship should be a ‘team’, with each person wanting the very best for each other. Not at the expense of themselves of course, but they also need to consider their partner too.
It’s give and take, and requires open communication, compassion and understanding.
The following quotes on the trouble that selfishness in relationships can cause, are eye-opening and interesting to contemplate further. Both in considering our own actions and those of our partners and what this means going forward.
Selfishness in Relationships Quotes
“Love is selfish yet a selfless feeling.” Heenashree Khandelwal
“Selfishness comes from poverty in the heart, from the belief that love is not abundant.” Don Miguel Ruiz
“It was because all we wanted was each other’s constant love and attention and for no one else to receive that love and attention, which is a selfish and difficult place to be in a relationship. We were emotionally retarded, and that was the best we could do at the time.” Anthony Kiedis (Scar Tissue)
“The only difference between a hero and the villain is that the villain chooses to use that power in a way that is selfish and hurts other people.” Chadwick Boseman
“Marriage takes your whole heart; selfish people can’t pull it off.” Helen Hunt
“You can’t expect to have a deep relationship with a shallow person.” Doe Zantamata
“Selfish people tend to only be good to themselves… then are surprised when they are alone.” Steve Maraboli
“Giving yourself some loving attention is not selfish. It is sensible. If you feel loved and cherished, even if it is only by yourself, then you will have more love to give to others, too.” Penelope Quest
“Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.” Oscar Wilde
“Foolish, selfish people are always thinking of themselves and the result is always negative. Wise persons think of others, helping them as much as they can, and the result is happiness. Love and compassion are beneficial both for you and others. Through your kindness to others, your mind and heart will open to peace.” Dalai Lama
“Selfish people are in a way terribly capable of great loves.” F. Scott Fitzgerald
“Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection – or compassionate action.” Daniel Goleman
“The brittle bones beneath my chest cracked, piercing my heart. It was you who breathed new life into my lungs and it was you who would later syphon the life you had given so as to feed your selfish desires” Sonya Watson
“A person is called selfish, not for pursuing his or her own good, but for neglecting his or her neighbor’s.” Richard Whatly
“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I’m out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” Marilyn Monroe
Quotes on Being Selfish In A Relationship
“It is impossible to be both selfish and happy.” Joyce Meyer
“Love is not selfish. Love is something else.” Morten Tyldum
“Sometimes in life, you have to make a selfish decision and do what’s best for you.” Saquon Barkley
“With fools, there is no companionship. Rather than to live with men who are selfish, vain, quarrelsome, and obstinate, let a man walk alone.” Buddha
“Sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless.” Edward Albert
“I was given such a great gift. It’s a miracle that never stops amazing me and reminding me to give thanks, every day. Having a wife and daughter gives me a lot more purpose. I was much more selfish before, but now I think about what kind of role model I’ll be. I just want to be a better man.” Jake Owen
“Selfish people also tend to have victim mindsets… Their actions plant seeds of loneliness; then they cry upon the blooming.” Steve Maraboli
“Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either.” Erich Fromm
“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” Martin Luther King Jr.
“But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilling yearnings.” Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
“Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves.” Stephen Kendrick
“Selfish people are, by definition, those whose activities are devoted to bringing themselves happiness. Yet. . . these selfish people are far less likely to be happy than those whose efforts are devoted to making others happy.” Bernard Rimland
Communication is key in any relationship and especially when there are problems. Talk to each other about how you’re feeling and what you need from the relationship. If your partner is unwilling to listen or change their ways, then it may be time to seek help, or move on.
Selfishness can cause a lot of trouble in a relationship, but with some effort and understanding, it can be overcome.
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