A collection of quotes about hurt, caused by family.
What do you do when your family hurts your feelings?
Families can be supportive, loving and close. They can also cause hurt feelings. Repeatedly.
Being emotionally hurt by family is unfortunately not uncommon. Whether there are unrealistic expectations, pent up emotions, fear, anger or unresolved issues from the past, these can all contribute to feelings of hurt in a family.
And it isn’t healthy.
If it was a stranger, or even a so-called ‘friend’, you wouldn’t put up with it, but we tend to let it go when it’s a family member.
It’s important to stand up to family members who cause you hurt, communicate, set boundaries and seek help when required. For everyone’s sake.
The following quotes all help to highlight what sometimes happens in families and what families should and shouldn’t be. We hope you find them interesting and that they help to provide you strength and comfort.
Hurt By Family Quotes
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” Dalai Lama
“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.” Virginia Satir
“Some old wounds never truly heal, and bleed again at the slightest word.” George R.R. Martin
“My family is my strength and my weakness.” Aishwarya Rai Bachchan
“I have learned now that while those who speak about one’s miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.” C. S. Lewis
“All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair.” Mitch Albom
“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Leo Tolstoy
“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.” Shannon L. Alder
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” Mahatma Gandhi
“Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” George Burns
“Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” Bob Marley
“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.” Khalil Gibran
“There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt.” Erma Bombeck
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” Richard Bach
“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.” Max Lerner
“Families are messy. Immortal families are eternally messy. Sometimes the best we can do is to remind each other that we’re related for better or for worse…and try to keep the maiming and killing to a minimum.” Rick Riordan
“They say family’s first, but family is the first to get you hurt.” Chrisper Malamsha
“A woman is the only thing I am afraid of that I know will not hurt me.” Abraham Lincoln
“If someone decides they’re not going to be happy, it’s not your problem. You don’t have to spend your time and energy trying to cheer up someone who has already decided to stay in a bad mood. Believe it or not, you can actually hurt people by playing into their self-pity.” Joyce Meyer
“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” Brene Brown
“The capacity for friendship is God’s way of apologizing for our families.” Jay McInerney
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” Mother Teresa
“There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.” C. JoyBell C.
“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.” George Bernard Shaw
“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt but the two rarely meet.” Steve Maraboli
If you’re feeling hurt by your family, there are a few things you can do:
- Try to talk to the person who hurt you. This can be difficult, but it’s important to cxpress how you feel and why their words or actions were hurtful.
- If talking doesn’t work, or if the person who hurt you isn’t willing to talk, you can try writing a letter. This can be a way to express your feelings without having to face the person directly.
- You might also want to consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They can help you deal with the pain you’re feeling and offer advice on how to communicate with the person who hurt you.
It’s important to remember that you have a right to feel hurt and pain. Don’t try to bottle up your feelings or pretend they don’t exist.
Instead, find a way to express them in a healthy way.
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